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Day 33 – February 2nd

Life really is a matter of perception.

I choose to look for the good, the beauty, and the treasures, in every day.   We have more control over how we feel, than we think we do.  I was teaching a yoga class to  a group of young adults this morning and I asked how they were doing. One answered, “Miserable”.  Wow really? Tell me about it? He went on to explain that he was stuck in a room, on hard flooring, with no trees or grass around. “I would rather be doing yoga outside, under the sun, on a nice patch of grass”.

The other day I asked one of my clients how she was feeling. She answered “well, I’m not overwhelmed, yet”.  I responded letting her know that I did not ask how she wasn’t, but rather how she was.  She thought for a moment and then responded, “well, right now I feel pretty content and capable”.  Wow, now that sounds a lot better than her first response.

How many times do we overlook some pleasant experience, or a feeling of accomplishment, or peace? Do you notice yourself looking for something wrong? Do you allow your past experiences to taint the present, or allow worry about what may happen, rather than what is happening?

Practice noticing the little things in life: The smell of fresh coffee brewing, making all the green lights on the way to work, pink cotton candy like clouds of a sunrise, a dog playing in the park, and so on. All you have to do is change your perception. Some may say have an attitude of gratitude. I would agree.

Enjoy every little things.  Life is good!

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Day 32 – February 1st

 

 

The art of maintaining balance, even under pressure.

Some time to work, some time to play.  Some time to rest, some time to exert energy. Some time to talk, some time to sit in silence. Some time to learn new things, some time to practice applying them.  Some time to spend with friends or family, some time to be alone.

When I get caught up in any one particular area of life for too long, and neglect others, I start to get antsy, uncomfortable.  I am not always aware of why.  I pause and try to turn my attention inward, and if I’m lucky, I figure it out, and then take action to bring about balance.

Part of balance, is keeping things in perspective.  Being flexible and having a willingness to do what is necessary to maintain it.  When I am living my life in balance, or reasonably so, I am able to withstand the pressure and stress that often come with living.  I am more effective and can stay present and calm in spite of what may be happening around me.  No matter what happens, it is not happening to me.  It is just happening.  When you are in a place of vulnerability or imbalance, it is easy to distort what is happening and make it about “me”, and then become reactive to it, and possibly create wreckage, that later you will need to clean up.

It’s ok if that happens, we are only human.  We get to fall short, and we get to say “I’m sorry”, and we get to do things differently next time.  Can you learn to be ok no matter what? I’m ok does not always mean I agree, it means I accept.

Self acceptance is the first step to personal freedom.  Be free!

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Day 31 – January 31st

Plan a day of self care.  Show yourself some gratitude.

It is so important to take time out and put your personal needs first.  Yes, first.  Say, “No”, sometimes to others, so that you can say “yes” more often to you.

What will feed your soul?

A couple hours outside reading? A peaceful afternoon baking or cooking in the kitchen? A warm, candlelit, bath? Binge watching a favorite TV show? Taking a motorcycle ride to the beach? A nice leisurely hike, or bike ride? Going to a day spa?

Listen to your inner voice, and follow its lead.  Set time aside with the intention of self soothing and self care.  You deserve it.  Embrace these moments and feel yourself completely immersed in the delicious experience of feeding your soul. Relax, no need to rush.  Everything can wait.  You are worth it.  Take yourself out on a date, love yourself, fall head of heels for you!

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Day 30 – January 30th

 

The human spirit is miraculous.

I watched a documentary telling the story of a young man with a dream to play college basketball.  He survived two plane crashes, lost two mothers, a father, a sister, and a brother, and almost his life; but never once did he  lose his drive to reach his dream.   He did whatever it took to push through.  After daily intensive rehab and training, he made it on to the college team of his choice.  It wasn’t that he was a star player, but what he did bring to the court was his light and energy; uplifting the spirit of those around him.

More than what you do, it is who you are, that others will remember.  Being a person of character, of willingness, of integrity, of passion, these stick with you, where ever you go.  Be grateful, be kind, be honest, others will learn by your example. Let yourself love and be loved. Laugh.  Play.  Rejoice in the glory of each new day.

Live your life, really live it, jump in and get messy, have fun!!

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Day 29 – January 29th

 

 

“The Journey is the reward”

I saw it today !! A person came to the place of self acceptance.  It was an extraordinary moment.

We are each destined to become who we were born to be.  This sounds a lot easier than it is.  Rarely can we see the destination from the starting point.  If we think we see the destination, what we soon become aware of is that it shifts and transforms.  As we move through our lives we begin to hear things like, “It’s the journey, not the destination”, and yet we find ourselves fixated on the outcomes; to which, by the way, we often have little, to no, control over.

The practice of mindfulness, or present time awareness, helps us appreciate the “here and now”.  We learn to let go of what was, and stop clinging to what may be, and we rest and breath in the what is.  Again, easier said than done 🙂

The more we come in to total acceptance of “Who I am”, and all that I have is “Now”, the more we are able to live one moment at a time, and let this be enough.

Breath in .  .  .  .  .”I am”.  .  .  .breath out .  .   .  .”This is enough”.

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Day 28 – January 28th

 

Did you ever know that you’re my hero
And everything I would like to be?
I can fly higher than an eagle
For you are the wind beneath my wings

(In honor of my mom, whose birthday is on this day)

When I was growing up, we didn’t have much.  One thing I always had was my mother’s love, and that was priceless.

Don’t wait to tell someone in your life how much they mean to you.  Don’t assume they already know.  Take time to reach out and tell them. “I appreciate you”.  “My life is better, because you are in it”.  “I love you”. “Thank you, thank you, thank you”.

There are some things in life that when shared, multiply. Love and Gratitude are two of them.  Don’t hold back, express it, give it away –  it will come back to you in abundance.  You are worthy of abundance.   Are you open and ready for it?

In the quiet moments of meditation, breath in . . . . .  “I am full of gratitude”.  .  .  .  .   breath out.  .  .  .  .  “Thank you, thank you, thank you”.   Allow your heart to open  to the  giving and receiving, of the vibrations that flow.

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Day 27 – January 27th

“On the day that you were born the angels got together, and decided to create a dream come true”.  Doesn’t that sound, and feel, better than “Happy Birthday to you. . .”?

Remember that you were born with the seed of who you truly are, and who you have always been, planted deep inside of you.  Life happens, and we develop layers upon layers of protective coating, for so many reasons.  Sometime it may seem your inner light has dimmed, or even worse, gone out.  The reality i it has been there shining all along.

As you develop trust, and faith, and love, and security, and acceptance, and peace and gratitude. .  .  .  .  .  .  and more.

As you let go of fear, and doubt, and selfishness, and ego, and resentment.  .  .  .   and so on.

The more you peel back the layer, and begin to reveal your true self, who you have always been, and who you really are.  You are amazing. You are love.

You already have everything you need within you.   Believe.

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Day 26 – January 26th

Sun peeking through the clouds

 

Even if you feel like there is a dark cloud following you, remember the sun is never far behind.

There are times in our lives when things don’t seem to be going as smoothly as we’d like, or is seems we are met with a series of mishaps.  We may feel like a gray cloud is over our head, or we are having “bad luck”.

I believe everything happens for a reason, and there are lesson in each experience. Perhaps when the gray cloud is over your head, you are being presented with opportunities to grow.  So many possibilities.  Maybe learning not to take things personally.  Things aren’t happening to YOU, they are just happening. Maybe the lesson is not getting stuck in the problem, but moving toward the solution.  Maybe learning to accept what is, and being okay anyway.

Thinking back now, can you recall something in your life, that initially felt like a negative, and looking back you found yourself growing from the experience, in some way. Maybe nothing comes to mind. No worries.  Sometime simply bringing things up in discussion, is like planting seeds, that sprout later on.

Next time you find yourself thinking “why me?”, ask yourself “why not?”  Look for the lesson, and grow with it.

Your life is unfolding exactly as it is intended to, find gratitude and peace in this knowing.

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Day 25 – January 25th

 

“You is Kind. You is Smart. You is Important.”  Kathryn Stockett, The Help

This may be corny, but it sure would be nice if everybody grows up hearing some version of it.  They would internalize this, believe it to be true, and live as if it were.

If the thoughts inside your head are self defeating, retrain your brain.  Find a new mantra (one of self worth, hope, belief, love, joy etc.)  repeat it often, let it sink in.  Believe it to be true, and live your life as if it is.

“You are strong”

“You are powerful”

“You are worthy”

“You are _____________”

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Day 24 – January 24th

My day started by watching the sunrise over the San Francisco Bay.  That is just where I happened to be, and what I happened to be doing.  I could have been anywhere, and if I caught a glimpse of sunrise, it was already a good day.  Truth be told, even if I had missed the sunrise altogether, the new day would still be filled with promise.

I try to begin each day with this feeling of renewal and hope.  It is a choice I make upon waking.  I feel grateful and content, and ready to begin the day.  This doesn’t always last.  Things happen.  I get distracted and diverted, from this morning intention. When this unexpected shift takes place, It is important for me to “right” myself, so that I can be present and available as I move through the day.

“Righting” myself may consist of taking a step back, and reconnecting to my breath.  It may be reaching out and talking with someone, or  letting go of what ever happens to be gnawing at me, at least for now.  Sometimes getting in my car and listening to music, does the trick, or looking around and taking in the simple beauty of the day.  Believe me, I am not perfect at this.  I try my best and practice being compassionate, gentle, and forgiving to myself when I am struggling.

The best we can do, is the best we can do.  That is enough, and so are you 🙂

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