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March 7th

Change.

What is your initial response to that word? Is it more “oh, no”, or is it “yeah, bring it on”?

The company I work for got acquired by a bigger company.  Today was the first day of business, under the new owners.  We had a meeting for all staff and it was interesting to listen to all of question being thrown around.

I was noticing that I was feeling excited and looking forward to what may come.  I was also aware that not all of us feel this way about change.

Maybe this will help:

 

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Day 61 – March 1st

Allowing someone to just be, exactly who they are, is such a generous gift.

Being given this gift by others, is priceless.

I work with many people, trying to do the best they can with what they’ve got.  Many, have created ways to take care of themselves, (through trauma or troubled childhoods) that are no long working, but it’s all they know.  At some point they are told by family, friends, or society, “to get over it and move on”.  If it was that easy, they wouldn’t have to come see me.

I have this amazing opportunity to provide a safe and supportive environment where they can simply be themselves, without expectations, or judgments.  Overtime they learn to trust, and then they begin to talk about what is really going on, and begin to take responsibility or their part.   It is on their terms to change.  Not because they are being pressured by others, but because they want more for themselves.

This is when the work really takes on a life of its own.  It is a beautiful thing to witness.  It all begins with unconditional acceptance of who they are.  They begin to believe that they are enough, already.  They are worthy, simply because they are.

This is true for ALL of us.  When we believe that we are worthy and deserving of abundance, we can open ourselves to receive it.

Mantra for today:

“I am enough, I am worthy, I am open to receive abundance in all of it’s forms”.

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Day 52 – February 21st

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It doesn’t take much to make me happy.

Hop on the back of the motorcycle .  .  .  .  .

In the kitchen, creating some complex and delicious meal.  .  .  .

Sitting outside, reading.  .  .  .  .  .

Listening and being moved by music.  .  .  .

My husband’s love.  .  .  .

Smiles.  .  .  .

Our children.  .  .  .  .  .

Beautiful wildflowers.  .  .  .  .

And the list goes on.

Today, jot some things down that make you happy, then choose one and do it 🙂

Enjoy, every little thing, and feel the joy it brings.

BE HAPPY.

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Day 50 – February 19th

I am working on unlearning being controlling.  I actually believed that I HAD to do all that I was doing, and that if i didn’t stay on top of others, that they might not do what I thought THEY HAD to do.

WOW, that was a lot of work.  I was often  exhausted and usually disappointed.  Rarely, did things go exactly as I expected them to go, and rarely did others do what I thought they should.

Learning to live in ease and acceptance is so much simpler and joyful, and – yet, I catch myself slipping back into my old ways of trying to run the show.  I become extremely uncomfortable and feel frustrated and misunderstood.

The good news, I can keep on practicing letting go, over and over again – and I DO!

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Day 49 – February 18th

Sometime I have to take opposite/contrary action.

Today is one of those days.

I have been feeling a bit “off”, nothing I can really put my finger on, but noticeable to myself, and others that I am close to.  I was reacting with impatience, irritation, and a bit edgy.  I was feeling restless and unsettled in my own skin.  I do not enjoy feeling this way, and thankfully, rarely do.

Today as I became aware of feeling uncharacteristically uncomfortable, I made a conscious decision to act opposite of how I was feeling.  I would chose to embrace, and exude peace and tranquility.

Setting this intention, was the first step to change.  Each time I started to react, I paused and shifted my attitude to one of acceptance and peace.  I started to feel better and the time moved more smoothly along.

By mid day, I was back to my usual self, feeling present and calm.  Another reminder of the power of our intentions, as well as the ability we all possess, to choose the way we want to approach each day.

If you are like me, and find yourself having “one of those days”, you have a choice to make.  You can stay right there, or you can move to a position of willingness, and make a conscious decision to shift your attitude, and then take acting moving toward this new direction.

Are you keeping yourself stuck? You don’t have to stay there.  .  .  .  .  at any given moment you have the to power to change your experience.  At first you may have to keep turning over your mind, but it does get easier, and you reap the benefits of the liberation it brings.

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Day 48 – February 17th

Don’t Eat It – Drawing Unhealthy Food Can Boost Your Mood A study reported in the Journal of Behavioral and Brain Science suggests that drawing pictures of unhealthy food can also have positive effects on mood. This study finds says just drawing pictures of comfort food can make you feel better. Drawing pizzas improved moods by 28%, sketching cupcakes and strawberries boosted spirits 27% and 22%. The losers were the control group who got low-fat low-comfort fresh peppers to draw. Their mood improved only 1%. Do you think this could work for you?

Some may not agree with this, but I have to be honest.  There are times when I turn to certain foods for comfort.  There, I said it.  I feel like I am being politically incorrect, somehow, by talking about this.

I’m not talking about stuffing my feelings, or burying them, or other kind of avoiding or distracting tactic.  I am talking about eating something, and enjoying the whole experience of it.  The soothing sensation that I feel as I enjoy it.

I’ve had various foods throughout my life that would qualify; pizza, ice cream, mac and cheese, bean and cheese burrito, chocolate cake.  .  .  .

Other things bring me comfort too.  Curling up with a good book, being on a boat on water drifting in the sun, etc.

How do you feel about this idea, of feeling comfort from food, or other things.  I’ve decided that I am ok with it.  Sure, comfort finds me in many other ways, and then there are those times I want to find it 🙂

What comforts you, and can you be ok with it? If indulging is something, later bring a bout of beating self up, this would be something worth exploring.  Finding comfort should increase a feel of “being ok in the world”.

May you find comfort and peace,  and may you be at ease.

bekindbereal

 

 

Day 47 – February 16th

What does it mean to you?

I was raised Jewish, and even had a bat mitzvah.  Yet looking back now, I don’t remember ever really praying.  We read from the prayer books, in Hebrew, much of the time (not understanding the meaning, of the language that I had learned to enunciate from my years in Hebrew school).

Being Jewish, for me was more about the traditions around family, food, and holidays. Less so, about the idea of a god, and even less about praying.  I must say this was MY experience, not at all how one might describe the religion.

It wasn’t until much, much later that I even looked back to realize this.  It has only been in the last several years that I have come understand the concept of faith, and the value it adds to my life.  It is huge!

Faith allows me to trust, and to let go of fear. Faith allows me to open my heart and feel safe.  Faith allows me to love BIG. Faith allows me to surrender into the unknown, and feel protected. Faith reminds me to stop trying to run the show, relax, and go with the flow .  .  .  .

Are you ready ?

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Day 46 – February 15th

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We all have period of wishing for______________________, or dreaming of ___________________, or wanting ________________________.

I believe the above to be normal, and fine.  The problem comes when we do more of the wishing, dreaming, or wanting, than we do counting. Counting our blessing, being grateful for all that we have, and all that is.

This morning I was sipping at my coffee, eating my yogurt, and feeling content.  I had my work day scheduled and all I had to do was sit back and wait for my client to arrive.  One at a time they came, and went.  I was aware of the peace and ease in which the time passed.  I was aware of how blessed I truly am.

This is not always the way my days unfold, but more and more I am aware that I can choose to relax, and take it easy, and fill myself with gratitude in the knowing that what IS.  .  .  IS enough.

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Day 45 – February 14th

 

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Be open to receiving it, and generous to giving it.

Love is everywhere.  You do not have to seek it, it will find you.

Today’s mantra suggestion:

“I open myself freely to give and to receive love”.

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Day 44 – February 13th

Doing the right thing is not always easy.

When you start to get honest, I mean really honest, it is uncomfortable trying to pull one over, even on yourself.

The slightest of indiscretions become uncomfortable.

Initially you may avoid telling the truth, because is seems easier at the moment, or you feel that it will avoid hurting someone else.  However, what soon becomes apparent is that in the long run, being honest is more kind, and less difficult than you expected it might be.

I’ve seen examples, over and over again.  In my life, and the lives of others.  It takes courage to speak your truth.  Remember you are strong and brave.  After speaking the truth, there may be some pain (yours and others). Remember we are resilient and so are most of our relationships.  Being dishonest is a heavy burden to carry, it dims our inner light, and it shields us from the sunlight of the spirit.  Remember you are precious and beautiful, allow your light to shine brightly and add to the positive vibration of the world around you.

We all deserve to be free and easy.  Don’t let lies, or dishonesty, hold you back.

Let go.

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